Nathaniel Branden, the author of “The Psychology of Self-Esteem” and “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem” says that the core idea that he has always wanted to teach is: “Your life is important. Honour it. Fight for your highest possibilities.”
As I contemplated these words, a few thoughts came to me. Firstly: Who would I be fighting in order to gain my highest possibilities? The answer came crashing through the usual muddle of thoughts that I have:
Sue the first, and probably the only, person that you would fight is yourself.
These words hit me with such force as the negative-speak which often has priority in my head usually rules over my more positive thoughts.
Secondly: Yes, my life is important, as is every single being on this planet. We each have a vital role to play in the continued well-being of all. A question that came up here for me was: What is your role in this crazy life you have? Well, I live with this question now, asking myself almost daily: “What do you need to do today to live your best life?”
Finally, how do I honour my life? Well, for today, the answer that came through is to know that my life is balanced and in order and all is well. And just for today, that has been achieved through self-Reiki, cleaning my living and working space, eating as healthily and well as I know how at this moment in time, and…Reaching out to share with others.
The subtle body is connected to the physical body by energy vortexes called chakras. Essential oils can stimulate and assist in the process of awakening, healing, opening and strengthening the chakras. Essential oils are the spirit (the essence) of plants. The oils can be used on acupuncture or shiatsu points and to massage and on the chakras when doing meditation and using visualization. They can be applied directly on the physical body (add to a little carrier oil first).
The first Chakra: Fears: Fears of physical survival, abandonment by the group, and the loss of physical disorder. Strengths: Tribal/family identity, bonding, and the tribal honour code; the support and loyalty that give one a sense of safety and connection to the physical world.
Suggested pure essential oils: peppermint, frankincense, cedarwood, myrrh, ginger, and benzoin.
The second Chakra: Fears: Fears of loss of control, or being controlled by another, through the dominating power of events or conditions such as addiction, rape, betrayal, impotence, financial loss, abandonment by our primary partner or professional colleagues. Also fears of the loss of power of the physical body. Strengths: The ability and stamina to survive financially and physically on one’s own and to defend and protect one’s self; the ‘fight or flight’ instinct; the ability to take risks; the resilience to recover from loss whether family members, partners, property, occupation, or finances; the power to rebel and re-establish a life; and personal and professional decision-making ability and talent.
Suggested pure essential oils: Ylang Ylang, cinnamon, petitgrain, myrrh, pine cypress, rose geranium, geranium.
The Third Chakra: Fears: Fears of rejection, criticism, looking foolish, and failing to meet one’s responsibilities; all fears related to physical appearance, such as a fear of obesity, baldness, or ageing; fears that others will discover our secrets. Strengths: Self-esteem, self-respect, and self-discipline; ambition, the ability to generate action, and the ability to handle a crisis; the courage to take risks; generosity, ethics, and strength of character.
The Fourth Chakra: Fears: Fears of loneliness, commitment, and ‘following one’s heart’; fear of inability to protect oneself emotionally; fear of emotional weakness and betrayal. Loss of fourth chakra energy can give rise to jealousy, bitterness, anger, hatred, and an inability to forgive others as well as oneself. Strengths: Love, forgiveness, compassion, dedication, inspiration, hope, trust, and the ability to heal oneself and others.
The fifth Chakra: Fears: Fears relating to our willpower exist within each chakra, appropriate to that chakra. We fear having no authority or power of choice within our own lives, first within our tribes, then within our personal and professional relationships. Then we fear having no authority with our selves, being out of control when it comes to our response to substances, to money, to power, to another person’s emotional control over our well-being. And finally, we fear the will of God. The notion of releasing our power of choice to a Divine force remains the greatest struggle for the individual seeking to become conscious. Strengths: Faith, self-knowledge, and personal authority; the capacity to make decisions knowing that no matter what decision we make, we can keep our word to ourselves or another person.
Suggested pure essential oils: Lavender, spearmint, frankincense, cypress.
The Sixth Chakra: Fears: An unwillingness to go within and excavate one’s fears; fear of truth when one’s reason is clouded; fear of sound, realistic judgement; fear of relying on external counsel; of discipline; fear of one’s own shadow side and its attributes. Strengths: Intellectual abilities and skills; evaluation of conscious and unconscious insights; receiving inspiration; generating great acts of creativity and intuitive reasoning-emotional intelligence.
Suggested pure essential oils: Frankincense, cedarwood, pine, rosemary, thyme.
The seventh Chakra: Fears: Fears relating to spiritual issues such as the ‘dark night of the soul’; fears of spiritual abandonment, loss of identity, and loss of connection with life and people around us. Strengths: Faith in the presence of the Divine, and in all that faith represents within one’s life-such as inner guidance, insight into healing, and a quality of trust that eclipses ordinary human fears; devotion.
Suggested pure essential oils: Benzoin, frankincense, myrrh, lavender, ravensara, basil and rosemary.
A few years ago, I went to a Narrative Therapist for Grief counselling. Over a number of weeks she gave me a number of scenarios in which I slowly but surely found a new way of living. One of those scenarios was looking for, or creating new, sacred spaces within the space which was now so empty.
To begin with it was impossible to see anything. Everything was filled with the aching loss that I felt. She lent me a book filled with photographs of what various people had done with their living space to make it sacred, filled with soul.
This opened me up to looking around at my living space with new eyes. Places I could celebrate what was as well as what still is. It is still a work in progress, but so many spaces are now popping up, and some older spaces into which new ideas are being generated.
The garden, filling up with trees, indigenous flowers, seedlings popping through the earth. This space has become a sacred space shared with all creatures-birds, lizards and frogs-not to mention my dogs and cat.
The labyrinth-a work in progress for many years, but slowly being defined and maintained.
The water feature-attracting birds to bath and drink. Ever changing as slowly but surely it becomes a sacred feature.
The sacred office space-filled with music, and symbols of strength and prayer.
We all need sacred spaces. Spaces in which we can rest our body, mind and soul. Spaces without electronics in them. Sacred spaces where you can “Breathe in the positive and breathe out the negative”.
I encourage you today to look at your space with new eyes, to see if you can find a space that will fill your soul with peace and joy.
What is a Reiki share?
Reiki practitioners (From Reiki 1 to Reiki Master teacher) get together to share some Reiki with each other.
All are welcome who want to give and receive a Reiki healing.
Thursday 12th November (New moon is Wednesday 1th, so a good time for balancing our EHF)
Thursday 26th November (Full moon is Wednesday 25th, so this is a time for nurturing)
Thursday 10th December (New moon is Friday 11th, so a good time for balancing)
Thursday 24th December (Full moon is on Friday 25th December-a good time for nurturing before the Christmas festivities, if you celebrate this time of year)
At Sue’s home: Sacredsutine Wholeness Centre
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