Emotional Intelligence…Why I have decided to focus on improving mine…

position-2What is emotional Intelligence? It is described as: the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

As Reiki healers, it can be so easy to fall into the trap…that ego trap…the one that tells us that we are doing just fine…that we are enlightened…compassionate…loving others unconditionally.

Being an instrument in the healing of another is awesome, but we often forget the saying that says: “Healer heal thyself”. We become so immersed in helping others that we forget to help ourselves, and what often happens is that we begin to express ourselves in needy or angry ways; we forget how to express our emotions in a way that is healthy and helpful rather than destructive and damaging. Self Reiki is meant to be a daily practice and one that we practice position-6without fail.

What happens though is that we become complacent, running from one healing session to another, without remembering that this work cannot be done when we are running on empty.

So…Just for today…I will do my self Reiki and allow my body, mind and emotions to be balanced by this Creative healing.

Until next time.

Love

Sue

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Love you neighbour as yourself…How do I get to a place of loving myself as much as I’m supposed to love my neighbours?

wild-womanIf I take this saying seriously, then I am only able to love others as much as I am able to love myself.

This makes sense from a few angles:

  • If I believe that I lack enough resources, then I will not want to share my “little” with someone else. I will want to keep it for myself so that I don’t do without.
  • If I believe that I am un-likeable, then I will not be able to share my heart with others as I will not believe that I am worthy
  • If I believe that I am stupid, then I will not want to sit in conversation with others as I will feel that I have nothing to offer.

This list of “Ifs” can go on and on depending on our thoughts about ourselves.

Now let’s look at this from the other side;

  • If I believe that I am trustworthy, then I will be willing to trust others
  • If I believe that I will always have enough, then I will be willing to share what i have
  • If I believe that I am smart, then I will want to share and learn from others.

Learning how to love all aspects of ourselves, both light and dark, comes from a variety of ways. All of them require some action from us.

  • Gratitude journal. Write 5 things you are grateful for every day. Try not to skip a day.
  • Letting go and letting The Divine hold all parts of you-the broken and the radiant.
  • Self-Reiki. If you have learnt Reiki I, you will know how to give yourself Reiki. Daily Self-Reiki keeps you balanced and able to think of yourself with compassion.
  • Speaking with another person: I have needed professional help in learning to love certain aspects of myself. People who have helped are: Spiritual Directors, Psychologists, Social workers and Narrative Therapists. Sometimes we need to hear stuff from people who don’t know us well.

To end, there is a little exercise that I do which helps me to keep a check on how I am doing on an emotional and mental, and sometimes physical level. I have a attached a short video explain how to do this exercise and how it works.

Just for Today…

grounded-chewy…I am Gentle and Calm

…I Trust

…I am Grateful for those who’ve gone before

…I work diligently in all areas of my life

…I am compassionate towards myself and others

My life is balanced and in order and all is well

your-life-is-important-honour-it-fight-for-your-highest-possibilitiesNathaniel Branden, the author of “The Psychology of Self-Esteem” and “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem” says that the core idea that he has always wanted to teach is: “Your life is important. Honour it. Fight for your highest possibilities.”

As I contemplated these words, a few thoughts came to me. Firstly: Who would I be fighting in order to gain my highest possibilities? The answer came crashing through the usual muddle of thoughts that I have:
Sue the first, and probably the only, person that you would fight is yourself.

These words hit me with such force as the negative-speak which often has priority in my head usually rules over my more positive thoughts.

Secondly: Yes, my life is important, as is every single being on this planet. We each have a vital role to play in the continued well-being of all. A question that came up here for me was: What is your role in this crazy life you have? Well, I live with this question now, asking myself almost daily: “What do you need to do today to live your best life?”

Finally, how do I honour my life? Well, for today, the answer that came through is to know that my life is balanced and in order and all is well. And just for today, that has been achieved through self-Reiki, cleaning my living and working space, eating as healthily and well as I know how at this moment in time, and…Reaching out to share with others.

In love, light and harmony

Sue xxx

Growing in the silence…Learning in the noise…

Ayabongas paintingTwo months ago, an old colleague of mine let me know that one of our past pupils had been tragically killed by a car that jumped the pavement. The shock, the disbelief…a six year old child taken from life before she has had a fighting chance at it. The anger at the unknown driver, the grief in knowing how devastated her mother and grandmother were. Their only child/grandchild…gone.

The noise of all these emotions kept everyone going. The noise of the funeral preparations kept her parent and grandparent going. But then comes the silence…the overwhelming silence of never hearing this child call their name again. The silence when they remember that she never got to complete grade one…This is when we grow. This is when we are reminded of the strength of our human spirit.

Hambe kahle Ayabonga, you will never be forgotten.Ayabonga

 

Is it true that what our mind thinks, our body feels?…

Neve in the oceanWhat causes us to become ill at the most inopportune times? Why is it that students become ill with tonsillitis or a cold at exam time? The higher our stress levels, the more susceptible we seem to become to illnesses. During July this year (Our Winter here in the Southern Hemisphere), I became ill during the most busy period of the month. I was not able to work for two days and my business partner had to carry the load of work for the two of us.

This again made me ponder on why this happens. Deb Shapiro, in “Your Body Speaks Your Mind” says “excessive stress has a direct effect on the immune system, as it lowers the ability to destroy invading viruses and bacteria through the production of adrenaline and cortisol.” Now this made total sense to me as I had seen it time after time within myself. At the times when I needed to function at my best, I would get sick with a cold or have a severe sinus attack.

As I learnt more about the power of our minds over our bodies, I also learnt the tools that can help us alleviate the levels of stress under which we live.

  1. Meditation: Simple mindfulness meditation. Being aware of our breath and taking the time to sit still for at least 20 minutes (Not an easy task for many of us)
  2. Reiki: This simple tool reduces our stress levels immensely. The more Reiki we practice (or experience) the more balanced our minds and bodies become.
  3. Healthy eating: We may have different dietary needs from each other, but we know when we are eating something that is bad for us…Our bodies feel the pain, or the heaviness of it.
  4. Exercise: Whether we are athletic or not, exercise is vital. Our sedentary lifestyle leads to health issues that our ancestors knew nothing of. So whether you need a lot of exercise, or a simple walk around the block, get moving!

Our health is our responsibility. There are times when we are mean to our bodies and push them beyond their limits…Just for today, let us be more mindful of what we are doing and be conscious of caring for ourselves on every level.

Blessings, love and light to you.

Sue

Feeling anxious…worried…fearful…? How Reiki has helped others…

self-reiki-solar plexusWhen I started learning Reiki, the thing that intrigued me the most was how calm my Reiki teacher was. My fellow student and myself would arrive for lessons harassed and with a hundred and one reasons why it was impossible to practise self Reiki for a full hour every day. The teacher would just smile and encourage us to give it our concerted effort for at least twenty-one days.

Looking back at that time, I can feel compassion for my younger self. In this world of quick fixes and instant access, it is challenging to slow ourselves down, to take a moment to breathe. It is even more difficult to spend time alone with ones self and give love and compassion which is directed within.

The most encouraging and exciting news that I can give you today is that it really does work. With perseverance, and a little bit of self-love, the daily self Reiki becomes a good and healthy habit. The positive outcome of a daily dose of self Reiki is that fears, worries and anxieties subside.

If you would like to learn how to do self Reiki, my next class begins on the second Sunday in July. The classes are once a week for 7 weeks. The lessons include basic energy healing (learning more detail about chakras, auras and meridians) and Reiki 1.

For more information or to book your space, please contact me via email, whatsapp or telephone.
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Energize your space…Which colours do I need?…

Chakra candles 3Colour is essential for our health. We need all the colours to be emotionally, physically and spiritually well. Each colour vibrates at its own frequency and plays a specific role in our well-being.

Here follows the seven basic colours of the rainbow and how each colour contains different properties for health.

Red: Vitality, Courage, Self-confidence, Stimulation, Energy, Assertiveness.
Use when you need to meet a demanding day, or when you feel drained of energy. The colour red provides the power from the earth and gives energy on all levels. It connects us to our physical body. Everything that is to be commenced needs the life vitality of red.

ORANGE: Happiness, Confidence, Resourcefulness, Warmth, Optimism, Creativity.
Brings joy to our workday and strengthens our appetite for life! Orange is the best emotional stimulant. It connects us to our senses and helps to remove inhibitions and makes us independent and social.

YELLOW: Wisdom, Clarity, Self-esteem, Joy, Success, Mental Clarity.
Gives us clarity of thought, increases awareness, and stimulates interest and curiosity. Yellow energy is related to the ability to perceive and understand. The yellow energy connects us to our mental self.

GREEN: Balance, Love, Self control, Nature, Harmony, Heart.
Cleanses and balances our energy, to give a feeling of renewal, peace and harmony. Green connects us to unconditional love and is used for balancing our whole being.

BLUE: Knowledge, Health, Decisiveness, Communication, Truth, Loyalty.
This is a mentally-relaxing colour. Blue has a pacifying effect on the nervous system and brings great relaxation. Ideal for sleep problems, and hyper-active children. Connects us to holistic thought, and gives us wisdom and clarity, enhancing communication and speech.

INDIGO: Intuition, Mysticism, Understanding.
The indigo energy connects us to our unconscious self, and gives us the experience of being part of the whole universe. Strengthens intuition, imagination, psychic powers, and increases dream activity.

VIOLET: Beauty, Creativity, Inspiration.
The violet energy connects us to our spiritual self bringing guidance, wisdom and inner strength. It enhances artistic talent and creativity.

There are of course exceptions to these colours. You may have a negative memory associated with a specific colour, and so it may mean something different to you. But that is a whole story on its own.

Chakra candles: I use the chakra candles when I want to bring more of a certain colour into my awareness, or when I have friends or clients requesting Distance Reiki for specific difficulties in their lives (Physical, Emotional, Mental or Spiritual).
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Here is one example of how I use all the candles together. The rose quartz in the centre represents the people that I am sending Distance Reiki to (It really is just a visual reminder for me). When sending to more than one person, or to a person who is very ill, I light all the candles in sequence from the purple down to the red.

yellow chakra candle

Another way in which I use the candles is when I am wanting specific help on a particular day. And on a day like today, writing blogs and trying to be ‘Oh so creative’, this yellow candle helps clear the mind and bring mental clarity.

There is so much more that can said about about colour and chakras, but we will leave that for another day.

Sending lots of Reiki love from me to you.

Sue

I’ve got joy deep down in my heart…Let’s access it!

Heart chakraThe year has begun and what better way to start it than with a loving gift to yourself. We could all do with a little more joy in our lives. Sometimes the stresses and worries of everyday life can seem overwhelming. By connecting deeply with our emotional heart we can learn to relax and celebrate life.

Joy is a quality of the heart that happens when your body, mind and heart all function in harmony. When you are joyful your body is relaxed, your mind is calm and your heart is overflowing with energy, love and peace.

1. Sit relaxed with your eyes closed. Breathe deeply a few times and sigh on each out breath.

2. Place your hands on the middle of your chest and bring to mind a past or current situation that has caused or is causing you pain or suffering. Breathe in and welcome the feeling. If tears come, just let them happen. Accept any emotion that arises and allow yourself to move deeply into the simple energy of the feeling, without the mind putting labels or judgements on it.

3. Then, as you breathe out, reconnect with a feeling of peace, love or joy. Allow the out breath to carry the blessings of peace, joy and love.

(This meditation is taken from the following book: Reiki for Emotional Healing by: Tanmaya Honervogt)

Love and compassion…How does Reiki give these qualities?

foot reiki 1Giving and receiving Reiki can be one of the most loving acts that you can do for yourself and another. How is this possible you may ask? There are so many acts of kindness, so many methods of DOING compassion and of DOING love.

foot reiki 2Well that’s just the point you see, while giving or receiving Reiki, you are DOING nothing. You are BEING. The Reiki practitioner allows the Reiki (Universal Life Force) to flow where it is most needed. S/he does not need to do anything except be present and move his/her hands to various points on the receiving person’s body.

The person receiving the Reiki agrees to accept the Reiki and allow it to flow where it is most needed in his / her body.

“I am but a channel,
A conduit from the Universe to you.
We are partners in this healing process.
Each BEING, and allowing
Ourselves to become one
With all that is.”

(Anonymous)