Trust…Of Self and of Others…On the Continued Path of Emotional Intelligence

Trust

Way back in January, I wrote my last blog and it had to do with improving my own emotional intelligence. That was 8 months ago! Goodness, “What happened?” I ask myself. Well, life happened, I suppose…I went to visit my daughter in China, got a compressed fracture on the last day and flew home in that condition. From then to date it has been about focussing on physical healing.

But, life is never that simple, is it? What also happened was me learning how emotionally immature I really am. Isn’t the Universe consistent that way? What you put out to the Universe will be brought to you to truly realise in abundance.

Today, on Women’s Day in South Africa, I decided to listen to a video by Brené Brown. A group of Soul Sisters have decided to discuss one of her books and so I decided to listen to one of her talks. What I heard when listening was: “Can you be trusted? Do you trust yourself?”

She discusses it in an acronym:
Boundaries
Reliable
Accountable
Vault
Integrity
Non-judgement
Generosity

Take a look at the video. Let me know what you think.

In Love, Light and Harmony

Sue

The “God Box”…A Creative Activity to Help Release Fears, Worries and Anxieties

god-box-2A creative activity which can help you symbolically hand your worries, fears and anxieties over . Whether you prefer to give your worries to Godde, your angels or simply put them in a worry box, it is the act of handing them over that relieves our minds and hearts of so much excess, unhelpful baggage.

The idea is to write each worry, fear, anxiety on to a separate piece of paper of place it the box. You will notice that the box has no opening. The lid has been glued on tight. The reason for this is so that we do not go digging out these pieces of paper to remind ourselves of our worries. This is truly a physical representation of handing our worries over.

god-box-1You will need:
A shoe box (or any box will work)
Pictures from magazines, calenders
Scissors
Stick glue
Hodge podge (or wood glue) to paint over all the pictures and hold them in place

Play some music that speaks to your soul. Some of my favourites are: Leonard Cohen, Gentle Reiki music such as Tranquility, The Light Touch or any music that helps you relax.

Allow your eyes to pick pictures that first attract them. Try not to think or reason why these particular pictures. Enjoy the creative, meditative time.

Watch the video which explains a little more.

Love you neighbour as yourself…How do I get to a place of loving myself as much as I’m supposed to love my neighbours?

wild-womanIf I take this saying seriously, then I am only able to love others as much as I am able to love myself.

This makes sense from a few angles:

  • If I believe that I lack enough resources, then I will not want to share my “little” with someone else. I will want to keep it for myself so that I don’t do without.
  • If I believe that I am un-likeable, then I will not be able to share my heart with others as I will not believe that I am worthy
  • If I believe that I am stupid, then I will not want to sit in conversation with others as I will feel that I have nothing to offer.

This list of “Ifs” can go on and on depending on our thoughts about ourselves.

Now let’s look at this from the other side;

  • If I believe that I am trustworthy, then I will be willing to trust others
  • If I believe that I will always have enough, then I will be willing to share what i have
  • If I believe that I am smart, then I will want to share and learn from others.

Learning how to love all aspects of ourselves, both light and dark, comes from a variety of ways. All of them require some action from us.

  • Gratitude journal. Write 5 things you are grateful for every day. Try not to skip a day.
  • Letting go and letting The Divine hold all parts of you-the broken and the radiant.
  • Self-Reiki. If you have learnt Reiki I, you will know how to give yourself Reiki. Daily Self-Reiki keeps you balanced and able to think of yourself with compassion.
  • Speaking with another person: I have needed professional help in learning to love certain aspects of myself. People who have helped are: Spiritual Directors, Psychologists, Social workers and Narrative Therapists. Sometimes we need to hear stuff from people who don’t know us well.

To end, there is a little exercise that I do which helps me to keep a check on how I am doing on an emotional and mental, and sometimes physical level. I have a attached a short video explain how to do this exercise and how it works.

Living with Compassion…For Ourselves…For Others

self compassionIt’s been a long time since a post has been written for Sacredsutine. Life can sometimes lead us down a few meandering paths, but there is always something or someone who beings us back onto our path.

While doing my personal Vision Board for 2017, it became glaringly obvious to me how far I had wandered from my chosen journey. I became obsessed with making a living and forgot how to live. As much as it is important to be able to pay rates, lights and water, put food on the table, and get the car fixed when it needs a service; it is even more important to be able to be loving and compassionate to those around me.

It reminded me of a book in my library which I read a few years ago: “Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life” by Karen Armstrong. She speaks of a council of religious leaders, from all faiths (Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism and Confucianism) who met in Switzerland in February 2009 to compose a final version of a Charter for Compassion which all of them had contributed to. The second point in this charter is the one I want to focus on in this post. It goes like this:

Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everyone without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect. (Karen Armstrong, Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life, 2011, The Bodley Head, London, Page 4)

Today, may we choose to be compassionate to at least one other person who is different to us. Maybe someone of a different gender, race or age. May we also remember to be compassionate towards ourselves. As is mentioned many times in the Christian Holy words: “Love your neighbour as you love yourself.”

Here is a short video giving an exercise which can help you symbolically bring the compassion of the Divine into your being.

Only the ignorant person becomes angry. The wise person understands. (Indian Wisdom)

Ethiopian cross with tumbled crystals
Ethiopian cross with tumbled crystals

For this month of November, I have been writing on how some words of wisdom from the Indian tradition have impacted on my everyday life. This week, the above saying, “Only the ignorant person becomes angry. The wise person understands.” has been playing round and round in my head.

I would love to be wise and know just how to speak, act and react in every situation. Imagine being the Wise One whom everyone comes to, to get advice, or the one who acts with love and compassion in every situation? Or, being the one who can laugh in the face of adversity knowing that “All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well” (Julian of Norwich)

However, my truth is that I sometimes still become angry at the slightest provocation; it is easy for me to misconstrue what someone has said and at times to take offence. Road rage remains a very real challenge in my life.

qigong-and-meditation-2 Through daily practice of qigong and mindfulness meditation, I am learning to keep my mouth shut and my ears open, and hopefully, before I die, I will understand “The Other” in love and compassion.

Lots of love, light and laughter

Sue

P.S: Please feel free to join me for qigong and meditation on my front lawn on Thursday morning (6.30-7.30) or Sunday afternoon (16.00-17.00). These sessions are free and everyone is welcome. xxx

 

Energy is information that moves…Five words trying to explain a very big concept…

plant auraI have been wrestling with how to get across my blog for today. The dictionary defines energy as: “The strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity. (changes in the levels of vitamins can affect energy and well-being); or: A person’s physical and mental powers.” (an alternative is to devote your energies to voluntary work). But I have been wanting to explain that more spiritual energy without making it sound like I have lost the plot.

Then, along came Dr Jill Bolte Taylor, in her book “My Stroke of Insight” (1) and explains from the inside out that “We are composed of energy and energy fields, which interconnect us to all things.” (2). This book is well worth a read if you want to read more detail.

Dr Taylor, a brain scientist, had a stroke which affected the left side of her brain. In her book she shares her experience and her subsequent understanding that she gained during her 8 year recovery. Here is a 20 minute TED talk where she speaks of what it was like, what happened ad what it is like now. Very interesting and well worth watching.

With love, light and harmony

Sue

References:

(1) Bolte Taylor Ph. D, J, 2009 My Stroke of Insight, Hodder & Stoughton, London

(2) Dale, C, 2013, The Subtle Body Practice Manual, A Comprehensive guide to Energy Healing, Sounds True, Colorado

Some exercise for our body and soul… A shared experience

If you would like to spend some shared time together in gentle exercise and mindful meditation, come and join me on Thursday morning or Sunday afternoon. no need to book, just come and join in.

If you would like directions, please phone me or send a message via whatsapp on 0844590072 or email me on sacredsutine@gmail.com

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The Universal laws in action…

labyrinthThis morning during my spiritual development time, I read the following which reminded me of the importance of living by universal laws rather than the laws put before us by the world. This is what it said…

“If we want to live the life of Truth, we must obey the Universal
laws. Our well-being or otherwise depends on whether
we do or do not abide by them.”

So I took a look back at what I had learned a while ago about Universal Laws. It was written by Deepak Chopra. I have a habit of forgetting what I have learned and then trying to reinvent the wheel. Yet, these laws are so relevant to our everyday life, to living in a way that is loving to ourselves, to others and the Creator.

We as human beings function according to the truths and rules of society and those we made ourselves while growing up. Our souls obey only the laws of the universe, also known as the spiritual laws. If our truths and those of the universe are not in alignment, it creates frustration, obstacles, stagnation or literally a cosmic slap in the face.  The laws of the universe are based on Love.

Most of our human truths are based in fear and fear is the root of all evil. The moment we integrate more of the universal truths into our life, the more we flow with our soul purpose and with the energies of the universe.

Deepak Chopra speaks of these Universal laws:
1. The law of willingness
2. The law of resistance
3. The law of action
4. The law of request
5. The law of gratitude
6. The law of attention
7. The law of attraction

I would suggest that you write what you think each of these laws means for you and over the next couple of weeks we will look at what it is we have found out. This is a lovely time to share our insights. Feel free to email me at sacredsutine@gmail.com and we can put our collective thoughts together for next week.

In love, light and harmony

Sue

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Breathe in…Breathe out…Aah!

breathe in and outToday I would like to focus on our breath. We take our breathing for granted and yet without breathing, we do not live. (Obvious, I know, but then why do we breathe so badly, robbing our bodies of vital, life giving oxygen?)

Through breath control we can regulate and direct the flow of energy through our body and auric field. Any good exercise includes breath regulation. Healers breath strongly and deeply to increase their energy and power for healing.

Many people in today’s world do not breathe deeply and use only the upper chest for breathing. This keeps the energy field weaker than it could be. Deep breathing from our diaphragm is automatic in children, but as we begin to block our feelings, so we cut down on our breath. Holding our breath or dampening our breath is the best way to stop feelings and to anaesthetize ourselves. The lungs are associated with freedom. If we dampen our breathing or let the chest collapse, we feel sadness. Our shallow breathing is related to our feelings of being trapped in a world we cannot control and feel very unsafe and unfulfilled in.

Breathing fully and deeply with our diaphragms helps us feel the power to regain our freedom and works to release the spirit of fear in which we are all held in this age.

alternate breathingA simple breathing exercise:
Stand with your knees bent, legs at shoulder width, so that your knees come over your feet; or sit upright in a chair with only the lower part of your back supported.
Relax.
With your right index finger, hold your left nostril closed. Take a deep breath in through your right nostril.
Hold it.
Close your right nostril with your right thumb and release your index finger from your left nostril. Now breathe out through the left nostril.
Hold your breath.
Close your left nostril with your right index finger.
Release your right nostril and breathe out.
Repeat this breathing while pulling your diaphragm down so that your lower abdomen thrusts out on your in breath filling your whole chest with air.
Now you can add a simple mantra if you choose for each in and out breath – freedom, power, health.
When you get used to the feeling of deep breathing, you can do it through both nostrils any time.
Hopefully, it will become a healthy habit.

(Information taken from Barbara Brennan: Light Emerging, pg. 127)

 

“It has to be the Reiki!”

feet and reikiToday I received a very positive, Reiki affirming letter from a past Reiki client who became a student and has now continued on her chosen path of healing… Reiki is life-giving on all levels. Thank you Jessica for sharing.

No one can say it better than Jessica herself…

Hi Sue,

As per our discussion on my facebook post:

I would really like to thank you for your training in Reiki, and assistance in tuning me in energetically; and guiding me to connect to intuition, body, mind, and soul.

Though I was trained on how to pick up on physical problems in Reflexology, I truly do believe that my Reiki training has laid an incredible foundation for my Reflexology; and possibly also for any other alternative therapies that I may learn in future!

When I started my case studies I was excited and anxious,thinking “Okay, I’m going to have to be patient here, I’m sure I will start picking up the signs with more and more practise”.  However, I was astounded at the rate that I was tuning in from the first client!  And…I was able to often give detailed accuracy on physical problems as I worked on their feet.

JessicaI thought to myself, “It has to be the Reiki!”

Thank you so much for all you have taught me Sue.  I would like for you to please share my account with your students, old and new. Training in energy healing can be very helpful in other hands on modalities.

Much Appreciated!
Jess