Emotional Intelligence…Why I have decided to focus on improving mine…

position-2What is emotional Intelligence? It is described as: the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

As Reiki healers, it can be so easy to fall into the trap…that ego trap…the one that tells us that we are doing just fine…that we are enlightened…compassionate…loving others unconditionally.

Being an instrument in the healing of another is awesome, but we often forget the saying that says: “Healer heal thyself”. We become so immersed in helping others that we forget to help ourselves, and what often happens is that we begin to express ourselves in needy or angry ways; we forget how to express our emotions in a way that is healthy and helpful rather than destructive and damaging. Self Reiki is meant to be a daily practice and one that we practice position-6without fail.

What happens though is that we become complacent, running from one healing session to another, without remembering that this work cannot be done when we are running on empty.

So…Just for today…I will do my self Reiki and allow my body, mind and emotions to be balanced by this Creative healing.

Until next time.

Love

Sue

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Just for Today…

grounded-chewy…I am Gentle and Calm

…I Trust

…I am Grateful for those who’ve gone before

…I work diligently in all areas of my life

…I am compassionate towards myself and others

Growing in the silence…Learning in the noise…

Ayabongas paintingTwo months ago, an old colleague of mine let me know that one of our past pupils had been tragically killed by a car that jumped the pavement. The shock, the disbelief…a six year old child taken from life before she has had a fighting chance at it. The anger at the unknown driver, the grief in knowing how devastated her mother and grandmother were. Their only child/grandchild…gone.

The noise of all these emotions kept everyone going. The noise of the funeral preparations kept her parent and grandparent going. But then comes the silence…the overwhelming silence of never hearing this child call their name again. The silence when they remember that she never got to complete grade one…This is when we grow. This is when we are reminded of the strength of our human spirit.

Hambe kahle Ayabonga, you will never be forgotten.Ayabonga

 

Is it true that what our mind thinks, our body feels?…

Neve in the oceanWhat causes us to become ill at the most inopportune times? Why is it that students become ill with tonsillitis or a cold at exam time? The higher our stress levels, the more susceptible we seem to become to illnesses. During July this year (Our Winter here in the Southern Hemisphere), I became ill during the most busy period of the month. I was not able to work for two days and my business partner had to carry the load of work for the two of us.

This again made me ponder on why this happens. Deb Shapiro, in “Your Body Speaks Your Mind” says “excessive stress has a direct effect on the immune system, as it lowers the ability to destroy invading viruses and bacteria through the production of adrenaline and cortisol.” Now this made total sense to me as I had seen it time after time within myself. At the times when I needed to function at my best, I would get sick with a cold or have a severe sinus attack.

As I learnt more about the power of our minds over our bodies, I also learnt the tools that can help us alleviate the levels of stress under which we live.

  1. Meditation: Simple mindfulness meditation. Being aware of our breath and taking the time to sit still for at least 20 minutes (Not an easy task for many of us)
  2. Reiki: This simple tool reduces our stress levels immensely. The more Reiki we practice (or experience) the more balanced our minds and bodies become.
  3. Healthy eating: We may have different dietary needs from each other, but we know when we are eating something that is bad for us…Our bodies feel the pain, or the heaviness of it.
  4. Exercise: Whether we are athletic or not, exercise is vital. Our sedentary lifestyle leads to health issues that our ancestors knew nothing of. So whether you need a lot of exercise, or a simple walk around the block, get moving!

Our health is our responsibility. There are times when we are mean to our bodies and push them beyond their limits…Just for today, let us be more mindful of what we are doing and be conscious of caring for ourselves on every level.

Blessings, love and light to you.

Sue

Be Kind to others…(I am compassionate to myself and others)

compassionAnd so we come to the 5th Reiki Principle: There are many versions of this principle:

  • Give thanks for every living thing
  • Be kind to others
  • Be thankful for the many blessings
  • Show gratitude for all living things

These are all saying the same thing, just using different words.

Before giving a Reiki treatment we can say thank you to life for being used as a channel for healing. We are not separate from other living beings but interconnected through Universal Life Energy – humans, animals and plants.

Being aware of this, we allow compassion and love to come into our lives. This is what kindness means. It is another form of love, compassion and respect for each other.

In this day and age, there is so much that we tend to take for granted, but there are many things in life, both big and small, to be grateful for; our own body, our health, good food, the beauty of nature, or the joy of a child.

As we become more aware of how precious and spontaneous life is, we can appreciate life itself and existence; and we can feel grateful for each new event in the sense of “Thy will be done”. Then the whole of life becomes a prayer.

self compassionIn our growth and awareness let us adopt gentleness, kindness, and consideration for all of God’s creatures. Respect for life is respect for the divine Wisdom and love inherent in all creations from the God-force. All matter radiates sound and light.

Mother earth is a living, breathing creation of the Divine. She is linked to humanity as humanity is linked to Mother Earth. We cannot deface her nor others without suffering the consequences of our unconscious actions. So, let us become aware of the needs of Mother Earth and the needs of humanity through respect, compassion and love.

In love, light and Harmony

Sue

Earn your Living Honestly (work hard)… the 4th principle

earn your living honestlyThis week we take a look at the fourth Reiki principle: Just for today, earn your living honestly. This speaks of our work, that which we came to this earth to do.

I love myself enough to realize that all I do affects others. If I do not work at my highest potential, then I am not being honest with myself or society. I am not an isolated entity living in a separate microcosmic world. “I AM” is a part of all parts. How I see myself reflects my joy in being a part of the sum, a totality of the all; and therefore, to be honest with myself is to love myself enough to do unto others as I wish them to do unto me.

Doing one’s work honestly means being truthful to the God-Self. Being in tune with what you are doing creates harmony; creating harmony allows you to be doing what is productive for society, yourself and all of creation. Therefore, honesty is alignment with the purpose of the Divine Plan of planet earth.

We are all a particle of Light from the same Source. What we think and how we work directly affects all levels of the Cosmos. We are a part of a Greater whole. Fulfilment of the Divine Plan comes only when we put forth constructive, loving energy.

On a more intimate level, how you perform your daily task directly affects the overall objectives of the company that employs you or the organization that you have agreed to support. The law of Karma is, “What we sow, so shall we reap.” If we sow positive, productive, loving energy, we receive the same energy returned tenfold or more. If we put out negative energy, then we reap negative results tenfold or more.

The deeper meaning of this principle is about being honest with yourself. To be aware of your feelings, your longings, your values, and beliefs in life, and last but not least to realize who you truly are – a divine being. To live in truth means to be aligned to your higher self, to seek out clarity and guidance in life.

Being honest in your work includes doing what you want to be doing. Enjoy your work and carry it out as well as you can. Then you will love and respect yourself. If you have a job that you do not like, in the long term you harm yourself, perhaps even falling ill.

With love, light and harmony

Sue

Honour Your Guardians, Teachers and Elders…

honourHi Everyone

The third Reiki principle states that we need to honour our parents, teachers and elders. Another version states: “Show gratitude to every living thing”.

Reiki is the energy of unconditional love. We know that all come from the same source and that there are only different expressions of forms and levels of energy vibration. Any positive energy directed to ourselves or others helps to heal. In a way we are all students and teachers of one another as we grow up. We share experiences with each other, we learn, we love, and we support each other. This principle is about letting every situation in life teach you something.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for
tomorrow.” – Melodie Beattie

We should show respect to those who gave us life. Even if the relationship is not a good one, we should adopt an attitude of respect because in this way there is a greater probability of resolving negative feelings on either side.
Many people are our teachers. They may be older or younger than us. It is important to acknowledge teaching when we receive it, even if it is just inwardly to ourselves.

To care about them, to love and respect them is to honour them in the right way.

“For today and its blessings, I owe the world an attitude of gratitude.” – Clarence E.
Hodges

With love and blessings always

Sue